Disappointment and Defeat

“You have been disappointed, you have undergone defeat during the depression, you have felt the great heart within you crushed until it bled. Take courage, for these experiences have tempered the spiritual metal of which you are made – they are assets of incomparable value.” ~Napoleon Hill

This hit me pretty hard today… It’s from today’s reading in Think and Grow Rich Every Day

I’m sure you’ve been disappointed at least a time or two. You’ve likely even had your heart crushed as Hill described.

I know I have.

It’s often difficult, if not impossible – in the moment, to realize what is truly going on within.

I love the imagery of tempered spiritual metal.

Wow! Just think about that for a moment…

Every circumstance, every upset, every disappointment has been refining your very spiritual existence.

As an adviser, I often get caught up in thinking that I’m not enough – my self worth is lacking at times.

Sure, I have a lot of education, credentials, and personal and professional experience, but why should anyone have an interest in what I have to say?

What makes me better or places me in a position to advise?

I ask myself those questions a lot.

The truth is that I’m just a simple human being with an unbelievably strong desire to empathize with and ultimately help people.

Recently, I’ve been thinking about my message as a business owner – as an entrepreneur.

A recent teaching from Darren Hardy caused me to think deeper about my core values and my purpose.

My journey of building a successful business has been fraught with challenges and disappointment. It certainly hasn’t been easy. It’s truly an entrepreneurial roller coaster.

But, it’s also been an awesome journey!

I think a lot of people assume that owning their own business means the heavens will open up, rain down paying customers, and free up personal time and cash flow.

Honestly, about a decade ago, this was my exact attitude.

Along the way, I learned that life doesn’t always go as planned. In fact, sometimes life makes little to no sense at all.

I’m grateful to know that in times like those, I’m simply being refined – I’m securing assets of incomparable value.

So, in my practice, I’m doing my best to align my message (and ultimately my work) with what I’m not only good at, but with what I’m extremely passionate about as well.

Naturally, the internet is a big place and, as such, I have a few different online profiles scattered here and there. Here’s my updated message – a re-branding of sorts – what do you think?

Financial Fitness through Life’s Transitions

As a divorced father of two incredible children and military veteran, I understand that life doesn’t always go as planned. I specialize in assisting you through your life’s transitions.

Whether you’re planning for a transition from the military back to civilian life, struggling with the financial aspects of divorce, or wading through the difficulties of the loss of your spouse, I’m here to help. Together, we’ll help ensure you get and stay financially fit – regardless of the transitions you face.


By age 27, I had been married nearly a decade, paid off nearly $26,000 of debt in 22 months as a low-ranking Airman in the Air Force, and was on track to become a millionaire less than a decade later.

During this time, I realized that taxes and finances are complicated.

Through my core values of empathy, honestly, integrity, and excellence, I made it my mission to assist people through the most difficult transitions in life.

I know what it’s like to leave a wife, daughter, and newborn son behind at home in order to accomplish the mission. I also understand the complexities involved with leaving that life behind.

I know what it’s like to face the fierce giant called divorce and also what it’s like to come out on the other side a better person.

I understand the extreme grief and confusion surrounding the loss of a loved one and the tax and financial decisions that must be made.

I don’t sell financial planning. I sell objectivity infused with a great deal of empathy. I’m here to help.


Reply back and let me know what you think. You might also include a topic or two that I might be able to assist you with. Or, just say hi 🙂